Wedding photographers always edit the final pictures; the proofs are unedited but still, when I look at our proofs, I still can't get over how already-edited they look. Maybe we just lucked out, or maybe we were just so happy, who could notice a splotch or pimple? I suspect it's the latter.

i'll try and find a photo of the splotches-- they're pretty visible. like i said, though, i'm not crying about it or wanting to hide...i was just curious. wedding photos always look so polished.

ugh I get splotches too except they appear in the form of oh-my-god so itchy red hives on my arms and legs. Also, ulcers. What 16 year old gets a stress-induced ulcer? Yep, me.

hives! ick! thankfully, this is just weird shaped spots. they usually go away after a half hour or so, or just spread until they combine into one beet red face.

i think i've seen the splotches too.

you should go with a full body outfit. or a birka. a nice, white birka.

If these splotches are anxiety-caused, and one's wedding is certainly a time to be anxious [if only for the party/family gathering/big to-do sense] then your family and loves ones will understand if you look splotchy. Ask cosmetics counterpeople about what type of makeup to use. ULTA has Bare Escence natural powder-type foundation if you don't want to layer on the goop. With my skin problem, I need extra heavy duty foundation, but maybe you can get by with softer stuff.

yes, tien, i am sure you've seen them. they occur not just during anxiety, but any time that there is adrenaline in my system-- so when i am excited, anxious, embarrassed...and um, drunk.

I happened upon your blog long ago and haven't been back in a while. Luckily, by chance, I've stumbed upon it again. Lucky because I'm getting married this spring too, so it's nice to read about someone else's anxiety as the date draws near.




As for your photo-dilemma, have you considered going with black-and-white photography? If you're a traditionalist, I know that option is probably out. Perhaps for the reception? BW always makes everyone look better.

I say, just wear a red dress. 1, you'll be much more bold and sassy, which we like, 2, the splothces will def not be noticable, and 3, you ain't fooling nobody in white anyway.

I like the birka idea. It's original. Who wants to look like another David's Bridal copycat, anyway?

Tweaka, I nominate you to draw me a fashion sketch of this wedding birka. This RED wedding birka.

I have the same problem - I flush really easy, when angry, hot, stressed out, you name it. It was worse in high school but still happens. People think I'm having a heart attack or badly sunburned. Even my MOTHER has asked me if I got too much sun! I don't have too much advice for you on the wedding pictures (although black & white could probably mask the problem) but I feel your pain. I wonder if you just talk to the photographer about it, if s/he might have suggestions?

Photoshop Master William Fuentes can Photoshop any Spotty, bochy or color imbalance's on anyone during anytime of the day the sun or any source of light falls on. The Clone Brush can work better then any oatmeal soap money can buy.

I'm another flusher and I hate, HATE wearing loads of makeup but I've found the follwing foundations actaully help with the redness: Stila and MakeupForever (both available at Sephora). They're super light so you don't look like you're wearing a mask. I'd suggest staying away from the greenish concealer stuff that's supposed to cut out redness, it's nasty and it always shows despite the claims to the contrary. E-mail me if you want more suggestions.

Add me to the list of B&W photograph suggestions, and don't worry, you'll look beautiful whichever route you go!

I don't think you should worry about it at all. If that's what happens to you, then that's just part of you. I've known you for 20 years and only realized it was a significant issue for you b/c you told me! Flushing has never been noticable to me--and all the pictures I've ever seen you in you look beautiful. I'm not a fan of make up. If you remember my wedding I had a very light neutral powder and some eyeliner. I fought tooth and nail not to wear lipstick, but I'm glad i did wear a little color b/c you wouldn't realy have even seen my lips in the photos at all if I didn't. Also, I think some black and white work will give you a nive alternative to close ups if, when you see the pics, you are really bothered by an color in your face. Point is, just don't worry about it. You'll be beautiful no matter what.